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Life is fucking hard sometimes?!

Me as a new parent: What the fuck?!
Me as a seasoned parent: What the fuck?

This was a  meme posted on Instagram by “One Awkward Mom.”

This was very thought-inspiring for me, and I actually did two posts on my socials based on my thoughts around this meme, and I’ve been thinking about it a lot lately.  

I decided to post what I wrote on my socials because it is essential. (And pretty darn insightful, if I do say so myself!)

This is what I posted the day I first saw the meme:

“I saw this on IG earlier and nearly spit my coffee out!!

It is SO true!!

I was JUST talking to my older son about something similar. We were basically talking about parenting and how hard it is, that it doesn't come with a guidebook. 

I told him, "This shit is hard! When you were born, I had never parented a newborn before! When you were a toddler, I had never parented a toddler before! You're 22, and I've never parented a 22-year-old before! I am 100% learning as I go!" 

And, this is the truth.

I am. 

However, I used to harp on my mistakes, but I now accept that mistakes will be made. I accept that I don't have the answers.

I accept that I am human, and this shit is hard.

It's all ok!

And this is what I wrote the next day….because it was still on my mind:

“I posted this the other day and wrote about how I agree with it when it comes to parenting. 

I've been mulling it over... 

I realized that this concept could be applied to all aspects of life! 

This is how I look at it: 

  • I’ve never been a 53-year-old woman before.
        I’m learning as I go. 

  • I’ve never been a wife of a 52-year-old man before.
        I’m learning as I go.

  • I’ve never been the daughter of a 75-year-old mother before.
        I’m learning as I go. 

Etcetera, etcetera, etcetera!!

There are SO many examples!! 

This makes so much sense to me!

Every day we learn as we go because we are met with circumstances we’ve never met. 

We cannot expect to have all of the answers! 

We cannot expect always to know the right thing to do or the right thing to say.

Isn’t that wonderful?! 

We can take undo pressure off of ourselves! 

I choose to accept that I don't have all of the answers.
I choose to accept that I am human, and this shit is hard.

Life is FUCKING hard sometimes!

It’s ok!”

It's all ok!

When I first thought about this, I was a little sad. 
I thought, “Fuck, I wish I had known this years ago. Life would’ve been easier.”

But, I know that is bullshit.
Life would still have been fucking hard sometimes.

I did not know this then because I wasn’t meant to.
I was meant to deal with whatever was going on in my life the way I was dealing with it.

I know this was how things were meant to be because that’s what happened. 

I don’t regret anything.

I have learned from every single experience I’ve had.

I have learned from every single person that has stepped into my life.  

I have grown from all of those learning experiences.

I can help you to accept that you are learning as you go…like the rest of us.
I can help you see how you’ve learned from past experiences.
I can help you see how you have grown.

I can help you see that it’s all ok.  

Let me help you take some of the undo pressure off of yourself!

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XO

As always, feel free to leave any questions or comments. I’d love to hear from you.