I have a couple questions for you…

How often do you put yourself into uncomfortable situations? 
How often to you let yourself work through the feeling of unease, instead of avoiding it?
How often do you let yourself feel awkward because you want to see where it leads to?

I ask these questions because over the last handful of years I have discovered how truly important it is to let myself be uncomfortable.
I have discovered how amazing it can be to knowingly put myself in uncomfortable situations.
I have discovered that almost every time I do so, the results are pretty awesome.

What was my most recent uncomfortable situation…you might ask.

Let me tell you, I was in Kentucky at the women’s empowerment camp I go to…Camp Gorgo.
I wasn’t the least bit nervous about going to camp, I’ve gone 3 times before and knew I was going to have a ball.

However, there was one thing planned that I was feeling pretty uncomfortable about.
There was to be a mini-boudoir photo shoot!

My first thoughts…
Nope
Not doing it
I’m not sexy
I’ll feel ridiculous
No one wants to see this (meaning my body) in lingerie

Yeah, I said some not so nice things to myself.

I was pretty convinced I wasn’t going to do it. 
I thought I was ok with not doing it.

But, I had this little niggling thought that I’d feel like I’d regret it afterwards.

So, I talked to my friend Trish about it.  Told her I didn’t have anything to wear for it and that I didn’t want to go out and buy lingerie.  We went back and forth on a few ideas and I was beginning to come around to something like a tank and my Woxers (don’t laugh! They’re great for sleeping in! No pulling undies out of my ass! Lol).

Something more ‘sporty sexy’ instead of ‘lingerie sexy.’
Ok, so I was staring to come around a bit.

Then two other things happened that helped nudge me towards doing it.
#1- The amazing photographer Christy Jones put a video in our group chat with a description of what the shoot would be like and that we could pretty much wear anything we wanted.
#2- An awesome lady that I follow on Instagram, Danielle Silverstein @marriageandmartinis, posted her experience at her boudoir shot and posted her pics.  And, man, did she look hot!!

Decision made!
I wasn’t going to overthink it!
I was going to pack what I thought I’d be comfortable in and I was going to do it!

As you can see by this pictures I did do it.
Was I uncomfortable? Yup.
Was I uneasy? Yup.
Did I feel awkward? Fuck yeah I did!!

But, knowing that I chose to do it and with the support from my friends and the directions from Christy, I was ok.
I didn’t try too hard.  I just let it be the experience it was going to be.

I’m very proud of myself for going through with it!

**Full disclosure- when I first saw the pictures I was a little disappointed. At myself, not the photography.  My immediate thought went to ‘I am not sexy’ and picking my body apart.  I realized that was a thought and I didn’t need to believe it.  I knew I could be sexy because I felt pretty damn sexy in my ‘Tina Turner’ outfit from our Saturday party (had to include a picture of it!)!!  So, I took some deep breaths, reset myself and looked at them with a different lens/attitude.

And, you know what?
I think I look pretty damned sexy!

Yes, it does feel uncomfortable putting those two pictures here!
(And, no, this isn’t all of the pictures…😉)

So, there you go.
A positive result from purposely putting myself in an uncomfortable situation and working through MANY moments of unease and awkwardness.

Now,back to my questions from the beginning.
Take some time to answer them.
You just may learn something about yourself.

I am the Get Real coach for women, what you see is what you get (literally! 😂)

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I live unapologetically me and can help you live unapologetically you! XO