The day that I was to take my exam to become a Certified Life Coach I was told to block off 4
hours to take it. The test shouldn’t take that long but it had to be taken all in one shot so they
wanted to make sure I had enough time. Greg happened to be working from home that day so
told him what was going on. I told him that when I went into my office and closed the door that I
was taking the test and he shouldn’t come in. Well, I went into my office and closed the door
like I had said I’d do. Now if I had been on a zoom call or in class I would have locked the door,
just in case he gets nosy, but I didn’t think it was necessary to do this time. So, a few minutes
after I started the test I heard him leave...assuming he went to go get lunch or something, but
about 10 minutes later I heard him come back in. I was like “hmm, that was fast. He must have
forgotten something. Well, I’m in the middle of this test and he opens the door a little bit and
has a pizza box in his hand. He holds the pizza box out to me, doesn’t say a word...just holds it
out and gives it a little push towards me...like “Hey, do you want a slice of pizza?” I looked at
him and was like “Get out, I’m taking a test!” So, in a split second these models start going
through my mind..”like oh man! What an asshole! He doesn’t respect my time!” And then I saw
the feeling..that this would make me angry. Then I literally saw the actions I would take from
that place of being angry...after I was done taking the test I would go out there and yell at him,
tell him he doesn’t respect my time, ask him what is wrong with him...would have told him that
he’s lucky I passed because if I had failed it would've been his fault! All of it! And the result from
that would’ve been that I was being an asshole. As soon as I started seeing this model form in
my head I stopped and was like, “Woah you have been with him for 33 years, married for 26 and
he is STILL coming in and offering me pizza. He’s worried that you might be hungry because he
knows that you haven’t eaten lunch yet. It has nothing to do with him not respecting your time,
nothing to do with him being an asshole. He was loving and wanted to make sure you
weren’t hungry!” His timing was impeccable! LOL! I then was like “wow” and a new model
formed in my head...I thought “aww, he’s just trying to be sweet!” and I felt very grateful. From
that feeling of gratefulness I finished my test (and passed it!) went into the living room, I hugged
him, thanked him for the pizza, ate the pizza, and was in a really great mood. And from that
thought, feeling and actions, my result was that I was sweet.
I wanted to share this because in the past I know that the first model is exactly how everything
would have happened and I may have even thrown a pen at him or something. But, I definitely
would have been in a bitchy mood about it because I truly would have believed that he didn’t
respect my time. It wasn't that at all! And, it truly is amazing that we can change our
thoughts...and change our whole outcome!
(I will be locking the door next time though! LOL!)