We all have struggles…
This, my friends, is your reminder:
We ALL have struggles.
We ALL have shit going on in our lives.
We ALL question ourselves at times.
We ALL need support sometimes.
What we do during those times is SO important.
My family is going through some hard shit right now.
One of my sons is struggling and has been for about 4 years.
He has gone to treatment centers and regularly sees a therapist and psychiatrist.
But, he has some really significant ups and downs.
I saw him in August, and he appeared to be doing really well.
We had a really nice time together.
I was really happy for him.
However, about a month ago, things took a turn again.
He dropped out of school and has been isolating himself in his apartment (most of the time).
Thankfully, he reached out to his therapist for help.
He said he'd like to go to an inpatient facility for treatment.
I spoke to him and his therapist, and through research and help from other professionals, we think we have found the right facility for him.
We are waiting for a few more details to be ironed out, but we are feeling pretty positive about our next steps.
Obviously, I have all kinds of thoughts.....
Mostly around how "long" this is taking and being in his apartment, alone, all day.
When I first spoke to him and his therapist, I felt this needed to be “fixed” immediately.
I was ready to act….without really doing my due diligence.
It felt like an emergency, but it really wasn’t.
It needed to be thought through and analyzed from a few different angles.
We decided to be very intentional about the search and gather as many facts as we could before making a decision.
And that takes time.
Things are progressing....just slowly. And sometimes, slowly is just what the situation needs.
In the past,
I would've been "drowning my sorrows" all the time, knowing it was doing more harm than good.
I would've been blaming myself for EVERYTHING! The fact that I'm not is HUGE growth for me.
I would’ve hopped on a plane and flown out there to “save” him and “fix” it.
I would have abandoned other things and people in my life.
I wouldn’t have worked, gone to the gym, taken care of myself, and been very nasty to my husband.
I am so happy and proud to say,
That is not me anymore.
On Monday, I was feeling very stressed out;
I recognized what I was feeling and why I was feeling that way.
I stopped, noticed, processed, and realized I wasn't ready to let that feeling go.
It felt "right" to feel that way then, and I didn't try to fight it.
On Tuesday, I wanted to relieve that "pressure."
When I woke up, I played music, danced, and shook my body while brushing my teeth.
I did a 15-minute full-body stretch.
I spoke out loud about what I was feeling.
I reached out for support (with the help of a gentle nudge).
And I went for a walk in Central Park.
I came across two pumpkins on a rock, and they made me smile.
Then, I found a nice flat rock in the sun and decided to lie on it and stare at the clouds for a while.
Wednesday morning, Thursday morning, and this morning were all a version of what I did on Tuesday.
What a way to start my days.
It felt calm and very loving.
I was able to go into the rest of the day calm and ready to handle whatever came at me.
So, much better than what I used to do.
I'm writing to remind you that you are not alone in your struggles.
I am the Get Real coach for women; what you see is what you get.
I can help and support you because I am human, and shit happens to me too.
I can teach you tools to help get you through these things.
I live unapologetically me and I can help you live unapologetically you.
I want to help you.
Click on the link above to schedule your free 30 minute consultation.
XO
